The Beauty Paradox (& why we’re obsessed)

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  1. I struggle with a lot of these thoughts, as well as conflicting messages. I was generally called pretty, but none of the guys I wanted to date were interested in me and went for more conventionally pretty girls. So, I finally figured this out about a year ago and a bunch of my life made a lot of sense. I am generally accepting of my looks now that I have a real idea of where I "fit" in society as far as how much attention I receive. Its harder to be confused lol. My husband thinks I'm beautiful, but considers himself ugly because of how others have reacted to him. So its still a journey for both of us.

  2. I used to be obsessed with the idea of being beautiful. I think because I was a very shy kid who never felt particularly accepted. It’s such a lonely place to live, being obsessed with your appearance. You lose sight of all the incredibly interesting things the world has to offer.

  3. Look let’s be real there are beautiful people out there who are born beautiful meaning very pleasing to the eye man and woman. Those who do plastic surgery are followers who feel the pressure to change to fit in or feel beautiful.

  4. I'm about half way through this video and I just wanted to say I think its hard to reaccess your own beauty if you're in a somewhat body dsymorphic state. Like I find it hard (not impossible but hard) to imagine a younger me who hated the sight of my own body, to put aside the expectation I had created for my body, and see myself with different eyes and judge with those new eyes.
    I could maybe have pretended and tried and force an acceptance. Furthermore, most people watching this are adults so maybe we are developed enough to be able to do that. But I wonder however if for my younger self it just took time for those thoughts to just fade, and I personally thank God they did.

  5. I think it’s really interesting to also consider beauty standards within smaller communities. In the black community, it’s becoming more accepted and even praised to have “traditionally black features” (wider rounder noses with a flatter nose bridge, big lips with the top lip being a bit darker than the bottom, sultry almond eyes, soft full eye brows, thicker curvier bodies with a thin waist/obvious waist to hip difference + noticeable amounts of booty/boobs/thighs, the list goes on). I feel pressured because not only do I not fulfill the needs of the Eurocentric beauty standard, but I’m also struggling in my own community with the things that are praised in some of my friend groups. It’s even praised in the queer community to have a naturally androgynous look which is something you either have or don’t have and that’s it. I hate falling victim and feeling ashamed for looking in the mirror and feeling less than because my body type/features aren’t the ones that people desire or appreciate the way they do others. I’m not really jealous because I don’t want my body to be a trend, but I’m still subscribing to it in every aspect of my work on my beauty. Just something really interesting about that.

  6. Very powerful piece. I truly appreciate how you are genuine, vulnerable, and open in your analysis of beauty. These systems of influence are extremely difficult to live within and whole-heartedly agree the first step is awareness of our choices and analysis of what we can or can't reject.

  7. Beauty truly is subjective. I've had people say that I was stunning, and others who say I'm hideous, and everything in between. The key to it all is truly learning to love yourself, and then what others think won't even matter.

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